Pain ~ A Doorway to Growth

There are always turning points in your life. There is always a rebirth day that we celebrate. Where you’ll be completely different. So at this point, you’ve to talk to yourself. Tell yourself that you cannot wait for a miracle to come and heal you. You cannot just barely sit in a corner crying, cribbing and begging for mercy because nobody has time. So, you have to accept yourself the way you are. The sooner the better. You have to feel perfect from within and decide to live life for yourself. Don’t be that perfect person for someone. Just take the moment and make it perfect for yourself. And you know how it will all begin? Decide to fight your fears.

Deactivate your Fear

We all have fears. Fear of the unknown. Fear of known. Fear of losing people. Fear of losing help, money. We want to excel in our careers. We want to become famous. We want to get money. We are scared all the time.

I think one of the mutual fears we all have is facing people. We might hide from people. You know why? Because we couldn’t stand that sympathy they have for us in their eyes when we are in pain. Mostly when suffering some kind of pain and during this, if we smile, people were like: you’re smiling, are you okay? And we get tired of this question being asked. But the fact is that they seem really cute questions when we overcome what we are going through. So overcome your fears, write them down, one by one and decide to defeat one fear at a time. Because it’s all right!

Another painful or fearful thing for many of us is the lack of acceptance. People think that they will not be accepted because we in the world of perfect people are imperfect. You know if you want to make the difference, don’t let people use you for their businesses. So when you acknowledge yourself how you are, the world remembers you. Everything begins from inside.

The Amazing Power of Healing

I believe in the intensity and power of words. Numerous individuals talk before they think, however I know the value of words. The words can make you, break you. They can mend your spirit. They can damage you forever. So, I always try to use positive words in my writings.

They call it adversity, I call it opportunity. They call it weakness, I call it strength. Always remember that everyone is differently able, no one is the same. They see my inabilities, I see my abilities. Some incidents happen in your life, and those incidents are so strong that they change your DNA. Those incidents are so strong that they break you, but transform your soul. Those incidents tear you apart, but they mould you into the best version of you. Somebody has rightly said that once you share your story, and it doesn’t make you cry that means you’re healed.

Emotional Turmoils

There comes a point in our lives that we feel devastated. We ask ourselves, why me? And that is where we started to question why am I even alive? What’s the point of living? We all try to chase this tunnel. We all do this because we see the light at the end of the tunnel, which keeps us going. But maybe in some situations, there was a tunnel where you had to roll on but there was no light and that is where you’ll realize that the words have the power to heal the soul.

Remember that everything shall pass. God has a greater plan for you. We don’t know what it is, but He surely has. And amidst all the grief and distress somehow or the other two words were so magical that kept us going. We all try to put that smile on our faces that hides the pain behind it, which was so hard. But the thing to keep reminding yourself is that, don’t give up. So think positive, play hard, live hard as hard work pays off.

Turning Adversity into Positivity

Truth be told, everyone has an untold story of constant pain, persistent effort and determination. Some people in the world fight an unseen battle within themselves 24/7, with a big smile on their face. They never cry, they never crib, they never whine. I call such people warriors. Because these people know the art of living life, and they are way better than those people who just exist in the world.

Sometimes you were in severe pain psychologically or mentally that you don’t have words to describe. And in those difficult times, many people left even the closed ones. The ones who were supposed to stay with you were the ones who left you when you needed them the most. You feel devastated. Life seems completely pointless, aimless and colourless. You didn’t want to live. But here is the thing, you need to realize that instead of crying for the people who were not meant to be with you, you have to live for yourself and for the people around you who want to see you alive. You have so much to be grateful for. So let’s stop cribbing, stop whining because it’s pointless.

Enter the World of Self-Therapy

In these hurtful situations, give yourself therapy which comes in various forms like painting. And yes, it will not just be therapy or an art piece. It will be your therapy. What an amazing therapy and a beautiful medium it is, without uttering a single word you can paint your heart out, you express yourself. People may say that what a lovely painting it is, but no one can see the grief in it. Only you could. What a beautiful escape it is. So don’t neglect your power.

Find the art that adds colours to your colourless life. And then, that adversity will help you to explore the person in you and will keep you alive through the whole journey. The most important thing you can do for yourself is accepting yourself the way you are.

Closing Words

Your imperfections are your medals so wear them with pride. You know when you think your glass is half-empty, come on, your glass is half-full. It’s all in your mind and heart. Last, but not least, believe in yourself even when you’re completely at the verge of despair where everybody left.

I know it’s hard, it’s very hard, but know that it’s not impossible. Remember, this too shall pass. God has a bigger plan and one day you will say that: Oh my God, that is why God has chosen me. There will be haters, there will be naysayers, there will be disbelievers, and then there will be you proving them wrong! So stay strong and make yourself your priority.

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Hamna Qasim

Hamna Qasim

Content Strategist | Co-Founder at Inteliract | Entrepreneur —